If after a handful of dates you aren’t 100% positive that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person, raise a family with that person and be intimate, I don’t think that shows there is an issue with you. Rather it shows that perhaps the shiddych system is somewhat flawed.
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MorahRach
Many people aren’t 100% sure even after their wedding night. You hope you did the right thing and that Hashem led you to the right person.
I think both of you have some point, first there’s just no way you can ever (besides for all that fluffy happiness one feels when their engaged) date and know that you for sure want to spend the rest of your life with this person. Because there’s so much that you never experienced with this person that you will experience on daily basis for the test of your life. Living under the same roof. We tend to see a lot about a person on dates and what their character may be like buy you’ll never experience marriage with them until you’re married so yes there’s a jump that we all do. Some are all giddy during engagement and they forgot this part (which usually hits them during those last few days when they’re all nervous) and some actually think about it will we be a happy couple.
At the end even when your spouse is right for you,it’s all what you make of it.
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