Daniel Rosen: Pashtus is that Lo Silbash has nothing to do with Arayos. Lo Silbash is one of the incredibly rare instances where for some reason we are sometimes Doresh Ta’ama Dikra (based on Rashi Al HaTorah) as a Snif L’hakel.
And who gets to determine what constitutes “wanting to be like a man” and “not understanding the special role of a woman”. I would be willing to wager that most women who want to wear pants want to do so out of comfort, not because they want to be like men.