Danish123,
Yes, it truly pains me that my children are not conducting their lives in a Torah-true manner. The pain that I express is not a farce to instill guilt. The pain that I show is not nearly as much pain as I feel. My children are hurting themselves, spiritually, socially, sometimes even physically. I disagree with the statement above that your job is to live your own life. With all due respect, at 16 you don’t really know how to live your own life. Parents are there to teach by example, by word & by deed how to live a Torah-successful life. That’s why Hashem chose Avrohom; He knew that Avrohom would teach his children the derech Hashem (see Ber 18:19). I disagree the statement above, “Well, sometimes it pains the parents because they want what is best for the child and __think this is not what is best for them__”. Being OTD, even in only one or two behaviors, is never “the best for them”. Parents, having had more life experiences than their children, are better equipped to be “ro-eh es ha-nolad”. It hurts us to think that our children are veering in the wrong direction. And if one will say it is good to learn from one’s mistakes, it is better to be righted when only slightly off course than to have to come back from devastation. I disagree with the statement above that it is not a child’s job to make their parents happy or to give them nachas. One of the foundations of Yiddishkeit is the concept of hakoras hatov. If you can’t follow the teachings & desires of your parents to walk in the ways of the Torah because YOU truly want to, then do it because THEY want you to, & “mitoch lo lishma, ba lishma”. In the end you will benefit.
You asked for an honest answer. I shared with you honestly. May I ask you a question: Will any of our answers have an effect on your decisions?
B’ahava.