I hear what you guys are saying about teaching them to fit in, but don’t they have a lot on their plate to absorb as is? It’s also hard to infringe on someone’s sense of style, when he/she has already given up most of his/her prior lifestyle. And it needs to be done without confusing them about the sometimes subtle differences between tznius/Halacha and community norms.
I’m not saying you guys are wrong, but it’s no simple feat, and also needs to be done at the proper time.
And PBA, I don’t think one may refuse a ger simply for being weird, which does not necessarily equate insincere. Most weird adults (not davka geirim) I know remain weird forever, so generally speaking they’re stable in their own right.
And don’t take this the wrong way as I’ve never met you IRL, but you do project some weirdness here, so hypothetically would you be me’gayer yourself?