OoM: All I am trying to say that that those who are not be denied their abilites simply because it does not fit into certain perceptions of what a woman should be.
My personal belief is that whatever the previous generation thought is good, change (where it is not heferu torasecha) is bad. I don’t think that we have such a perception by accident. I think there is a reason for it and I think this reason stems from what I believe is the tachlis of a man or woman. Yes, an individuals tachlis can vary, but I think there are general rules and we can infer those rules the Torah: a man fulfills his tachlis through all the mitzvos, a women fulfills her tachlis by emulating eishes Chayil (and of course hermitzvos).
Why do you feel that just because someone has an ability it is meant to be put to good use and not meant to be a nisayon to overcome?
You are centering religious worship around gender roles. My premise is that religious worship may not necessarily be centralized in the way you think it is.
I think I am doing just the opposite. I am inferring gender roles from religious worship (ie. from what the Torah tells us about men and women).