oomis1105, re:”Much of this is discovered during the engagement period, which really IMO ought to be the COURTSHIP period, with more time alotted to it before getting engaged.”
Lav Davka, I heard of a case of a couple dating (and there are probably many others) where the boy just couldn’t commit, and went out on close to twenty lengthy dates, after which he finally did propose, only to break the engagement a week before the wedding.
Are you suggesting some singles should date for many months, if they’re unsure?
I say, if either side has to be coaxed more than the norm, that Shidduch shouldn’t hsppen ever, not months later either.