AZOI – my sister was dating a guy for about two months. He was ready to get married and she wasn’t quite ready to commit. (this was a shidduch date system) His Rav told him to break it off because “If she isn’t ready now, she will never be.” He broke up with her.
After about a 2 month break, she contacted him to see if he wanted to give it another shot. B”H they are happily married for just about ten years (in August) with three wonderful children.
This “one size fits all” dating philosophy is the worst thing. It almost destroyed a potential marriage.
Young, I would ask the shadchan for some basic information. Then go out with him – if there is nothing between you two, then it doesnt matter. If you really like him, start asking him what happened.