Are you suggesting some singles should date for many months, if they’re unsure?
I don’t think many months make much of a difference for people who are UNSURE. But it can make a lot of difference to people who THINK they are sure, and then either solidify the relationship even further OR discover something negative which they did not immediately notice, as they start to let their hair down a bit. When a young man who was dating a girl I know, started feeling he didn’t have to “put on a show,” for the girl anymore, she started to notice he had a temper (in traffic, with a waitress, with his family), things she would not have seen in the first two months. Generally, I am not in favor of very short dating periods. I think four months is a good amount of time before getting engaged. There is a world of difference between getting to know someone and being afraid to commit. What on earth is everyone’s rush? Do you have any idea how many marriages are breaking up within the first year (some after only a couple of months)? I am not saying there are NO couples who cannot make up their minds in a short time, and who cannot be happy, but if they are going to be happy in two months, they can wait another two months and also be happy. And if there is a fear they would not be, then maybe it is not as good a shidduch as people think. Just my opinion.