“Oomis, I guess I wasn’t clear. The couple did check with Dor Yesharun but after the engagment. They were both carriers”
Perhaps I just did not understand what you posted. I am so sorry for the parties involved. That is so sad. they should both have much simcha and nachas in the coming years. As to the shtar mechilah, this is something I have only heard about in the last two years. It is apparently given by the aggrieved party in the breakup to the one who called it off, to show there are no hard feelings, I guess. It has nothing to do with tenoim, though, from my understanding. My friend’s son never had tenoim until the wedding took place, but he gave his ex-kallah a shtar mechillah when her family called off the wedding. He is happily married with a child now, so it shows what is bashert is bashert.
I am sure you MORE than pass muster! 🙂