To say that “to break an engagement is much worse than getting divorced” is the biggest am h’aratzus I’ve ever heard. From personal experience I can tell you that if you can get out of an unhealthy relationship before it’s too late – run for it. Besides for the possibility that (assuming the guy is the problem in this example) the man might not give a get to his wife – hence, saying get married and get divorced right after is brilliant. 2. Finanacially. go through w/ wedding expenses and then the additional expense of divorce? sponsor it. 3. marriage is not a game. if the couple knows this marriage has zero potential to last, WHAT’S THE POINT???
And lastly, to the ones who say that chosson / kallah break engagements for the silliest reasons, do you indeed think it’s so much fun? If a boy or girl comes to such a decision it’s probably for serious reasons. And in most cases, I’m sure, with the haskama of a rav.