Gefen, thank you for your well thought out comment.
However, there is a mathematical problem with your theory.
Taking Him out of the picture would (Ch”v’Sh) make someone a koifer.
But there are those here in the CR who say that not believing in the age gap and the shidduch crisis makes someone a koifer.
So they’re both equal.
And in a mathematical equasion if they’re both equal then I think you’re wrong.
And so is everybody else around here.
Maybe Haifagirl can help. She just proved that not only is she a whiz at grammar and spelling; her math skills are nothing to sneeze at either.