UBI:
The short response (i don’t call it a answer, because there is no question):
15/20 years ago (and certainly going back a bit farther) the numbers were not imbalanced like they are today.
In other words, the observation I stated above – that you agree exists today- simply didn’t exist back then.
No observation
No crisis
No Pircha
(or perhaps more accurately put, much much smaller imbalance, much much smaller crisis, to the point that people didn’t notice it)
If you can just humor me, how can you write with a straight face (I assume you post in all seriousness) that a significant numbers imbalance doesn’t create a major problem in the shidduch scene?
It should be self evident that it would absolutely do so.
Simple laws of supply and demand.
I guess your (incorrect) response is: “I can’t explain why it wouldn’t, but hey, years ago the numbers were also a problem and then it didn’t create a major problem, so whatever the explanation then was, would be true now as well.”
Am I correct in understanding you?
If you want to argue, that the numbers aren’t imbalanced- fine
That is a incorrect position as you yourself agree, but at lest the argument is not self contradictory)
If you want to debate/discuss WHY the numbers are imbalanced- fine
If you want to debate how to alleviate or should any efforts be made to alleviate the imbalance-fine
But to say the numbers ARE imbalanced but that doesn’t make a mega difference.
Honestly- it’s hard for me to grasp that argument.
(btw not that this is empirical evidence, but I and my friends were in the shidduch scene 15/20 years ago…. I happen to think – contrary to what you claim- that then the style was also to go to the boys first but i don’t want to harp on this point as it’s really not our core discussion ).
UBI: for the sake of clarity, I’m assuming your response to this post will to request to explain why the numbers are imbalanced now and they weren’t then. I haven’t touched that.