Chesed girls come to your house to assist you. I wouldn’t call that farming out your kids. If you find a capable girl, even if only to play with your kids and keep them occupied, it can be a real brocha. It might not be possible over the summer, but it’s definitely worth a shot. And it’s never a good idea for the “new husband” to be the disciplinarian in a family, eventually maybe. However, stability, more family down time, help with everyday tasks, and above all a happy mother can go a long way. A husband can help with these, but it’s best to have things a little under control before even contemplating marriage. Your goal now should be to try to get all the help you can, to get some sort of normalcy, and a smile on your face. Treat yourself often, and don’t be too demanding of yourself. Try to cut back on unnecessary chores.
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