Yes, pixela, we know, and you are right.
Nobody would dare make an attempt at joking about the tzuris families went through struggling to feed their children.
I belieive Toi & ObstacleI are joking about the inelegant phrasing, which elicits sympathy for the subject of the clause, i.e. slippery bearer of the scales & gills; and not for our poor grandmother stirring the watery pot of soup with her worn wooden spoon while worrying about her emaciated children.
Perhaps Haifag would care to chime in and explain clearly how the misunderstanding arose.