“For example, what if the ‘democratic process’ decided that ‘social policy’ requires all men, women and children to be michalel Shabbos and to disallow Bris Mila until the child becomes an adult and chooses then whether or not he wants a bris?”
Big difference, HaKatan. Those decisions would prohibit us from practicing our religion. This decision, on the other hand, doesn’t really affect anyone who doesn’t want to take advantage of it. If you’re not gay and don’t want a gay marriage, this decision has ZERO effect on you. And guess what– it doesn’t really encourage toeivah (although it does validate it). Do you think that any gay people out there who were previously refraining from toeivah are now going to engage in it just because the government says they can get married?