frumgirl93: If everyone actually had a different image of the “top” guy/girl, the shidduch crisis would be a long way toward being solved, IMO.
Actually, that’s a universal issue, granted, but I think that an issue is that starting out, everyone’s looking for the SAME guy/girl. I look at my mom’s spreadsheets of bare-bones info and EVERYONE LOOKS THE SAME because that’s what everyone wants to see. My mom’s biggest saying (paraphrased a LOT) is that you don’t get a different image of who’s “top” until you meet your spouse. And your spouse is “top.”
It could just be that the profile of the “top” guy/girl is just so sparse that 95% of people can actually fall under it with a bit of cutting and pasting and editing, but if so, maybe that needs to change as well. Or maybe people just edit too much in order to become the “top” when that’s really not them.
Please, Hashem, let all this be fixed when I’m twenty…