Just to add to the fray I happen to know a lot of guys 25-30 who are still single so “if there is a crisis” it’s equal on both sides except that the girls tend to over dramatize things so everyone is worried about the poor girls who nebach are in their low 20’a and not married.
Now what I don’t understand is that Nasi and some other unintelligent groups want boys to look away an marry a girl older then them yet I know many boys in the 25-30 range who get NOs from the mothers because the boy is too old even though the girl already hit 20. So what on earth is going on?!
What’s going on is you have a lot of crazy parents doing everything they can in their power to get the most perfect guy or girl in the universe for their child who is quite far from perfect and they just keep running around in circles getting nowhere because they aren’t trying to actually find a shidduch that would be a good match for their child. I know of people that have girls who nebach date maybe once a year because nobody is good enough for mommy or totty. It’s ridiculous. How many of these mothers tell their daughter the truth that the reason they can’t get a date is because they said no to over 30 good shidduchim that weren’t good enough for the most foolish reasons? If you asked me (and I base my opinion on conversations with some shachanim who are not big name but try hard to get people married) the parents are wrecking things for their children while thinking that they have their best interests at heart.