i still agree with you 100 percent. i really mean that with a full heart becuase i want things to change too! but as a whole girls are more sensitive beings and you just cant change their essence. unless you are specificly talking about older singles and giving them names first. when you get older you start becoming more immune and learn to be able to keep your spirits up. but the younger ones are still too emotionally immature to handle all the rejections. the problem still tho is that the girls will never be the ones in charge. rabonim dont want it that way and shadchanim follow the rabonim. when you start letting girls control things its gonnna now turn the tables making the girls the picky ones leaving the boys left out for many months sometimes even an entire year without a single date. its happened to me and its happened to my friends. tho not spoken about publicly, im pretty sure the underlying reason boys get suggested the girls first is because the rabonim want them to get married as quick as possible so they can channel their taivos in the proper direction. you take that potential away when you give the girls the upper hand. that leads to the very strong possibility that there will be a serious spritual yeridah in the really good boys that are out there if we start changing the system. like i said before there is a reason things are this way and tho not ideal, it still works.
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