It should be assur to:
ask to see a picture of either party
ask anything about weight or clothing size for either party
ask if the boy or girl is good-looking (that is very subjective)
ask how much money the parents make and what the grandparents do
ask ANYTHING that does not speak to the personality and middos of the person being redt.
I don’t want to hear the boy or girl is the “best.” Everyone cannot be the best. Some have to be merely terrific, and that is wonderful. Some have to be average, and guess what – they deserve to find their basherter also.
I am sick and tired of the shidduchim games that are played. Let our young people just MEET and decide for themselves if there is a potential there. It is time to stop investigating families to death (and things often do not come out anyway, even from all the research), making foolish judgments over ridiculous minutiae, and preventing boys and girls who are possibly well-suited to each other from ever meeting, based on naarishkeiten.