writersoul: That’s a din in the reference, not in the dater. People should be careful how they give over information, but a person can ask in an appropriate manner.
jewishfeminist: “Also, physical attraction can follow emotional attraction.” Not to generalize, but that is why girls don’t need a picture and guys do. It’s very rare for a guy to marry a girl he didn’t consider in the realm of attractive on the first date.