jewishfeminist02 –
Example #1: I have never heard of a boy writing a shidduch resume.
I did, my wife still keeps it in a drawer somewhere. All the shadchanim I dealt with assumed I had one, indicating that as far as they’re concerned all guys do.
Example #2: A boy can reject a girl without the girl ever even knowing that the match was suggested in the first place.
And saying yes to a girl only to be rejected is in what way better? Mima nafshach, if he says yes and she says no then she is the deciding factor. If he says yes and she also does, then they date and, again, she is the deciding factor. Only if he says no first does the question of the shidduch going ahead or not rest on his decision. In other words, looks to me like it’s decidedly in her favour.
Example #3: The girl’s family has to come up with the money to pay for most of the wedding expenses.
Depends on the families and how they agree to split it, something that in my family’s experience only takes place after the couple are already engaged. So how does that affect the actual dating process?