Um, yeah, weight (not so much height, if you’re short and you don’t want someone taller than you) is pretty subjective. I know girls (around the same height) who weigh about the same amount. One looks the way you’d picture someone who weighs that amount, and one looks very thin. It’s all in the build.
And when you say 1xx, does that mean that if she weighs more than 100 lb she’s overweight? I’m going to assume not, but if so that’s just disturbing.
And I’ll be honest with you and say that no, I don’t think that the way you’re doing it is really right. The height thing I can get (and girls are asking that too- girls don’t want short guys any more than you want a tall girl), but asking weight? That is WAY overboard. As I said above, there are girls who are 120 lb and look heavier (if they’re naturally slim) and girls who are 140 and look gorgeous.
I’ll also be honest and say that a lot of this frustration is because I’m struggling with my weight and not particularly gorgeous and I’m still holding out the hope that my chosson’s (eventually) not going to care like that and potentially nix me before he starts, but it seems to be a bit too much to ask.
And to get away from my angst for a quarter of a second to wrap up, why don’t you meet her to figure out if she’s pretty- much more direct and non-subjective?