Just some random thoughts I have when I read these discussions:
I TRULY believe that marriage is cheapened by us everyday when Torah Observant choose to only date a girl/boy based on superficial things such as looks/money/who their family is etc. THIS cheapens marriage much more than those who marry because they fell in love with who a person is.
2. Why are we always picking and choosing what is wrong and worthy of being up in arms about? There are so many Toeivas and Torah prohibitions, and yet where are the masses of members of the Jewish faith to criticize those who are slimy in their business dealings (Devarim 25:13-16).
3. A similar thought, how can you be up in arms against legalizing gay marriage and not be up in arms when they open up a McDonalds in a Jewish area? Both are providing the vehicle by which Jews will be committing aveirahs. One step further, there’s no inherent taivah to eat a cheeseburger, but one who Hashem creates with the tayva of being attracted to the same-sex does have an inherent tayva similar to an individual has an attraction to the opposite sex! I would argue logically that we should judge less those who have an inherent tayva they are born with than one that is so easy not to do…!
4. The saying “don’t throw stones in glass houses” really rings true here. If every Jew spent as much time working on their own middos as they spend on criticizing other Jews for succumbing to their shortcomings we would honestly have a nation of Tzadikim.