The Goq,
there are so many tragedies happening to small children of large families being left in a hot car, unsupervised near a pool or body of water there are other examples.
G-d forbid, G-d forbid that this should ever happen to anyone. Unfortunately, it does happen, but I don’t see any correlation between the occurrence of these types of tragedies and the number of children a family has. A child is R”L left in a car usually due to a change in pattern, e.g., a father intending to bring his child to day care when he usually doesn’t, and not being mindful and going into autopilot. Parents must always check their cars whenever they exit, even if they know there are no kids inside. A drowning R”L happens if a location is not properly secured and supervised, which can happen whether there is one child or 20.
I know back in the 60s and 70s when it first became popular to have very large families the common reason given was to repopulate the Jewish souls we lost in the holocaust,
I think the secular American/European practice of having very few children is anomalous, not having a large number of children.
but now it seems that every couple is expected to have many children,
How many children to have is a decision that is solely between husband and wife, with a goal of serving Hashem as best as they can. It is not a decision to be taken lightly, but at the same time people outside of the marriage should not get involved unless asked.
not to mention the fact that many of these families are on public assistance is it really fair for the government to pay for someone who has more children than they can afford?
Personally I think feeding and caring for children is money well spent no matter where it is coming from, but this point really has no relation to the ones above about child safety. If you don’t like how your government’s money is being spent, then campaign for people who advocate changing the laws to something you like better.