Oomis- the families that I think are doing an amazing job are most certainly NOT outsourcing their responsibilities to their older children. I see that happen too, and I don’t think very highly of them. Those are exactly the families that need to be more thoughtful about their decisions. I just don’t like grand statements that nobody should be having a dozen kids. It is possible for some, just not for everybody.
As to your point about girls- I can assure that I, at the very least, am not contributing to that problem. I only have boys so far, and they are fully expected to do age-appropriate chores because everyone who lives at home contributes at home. My future daughters-in-law will thank me 🙂