jewishfeminist02
There is no one-size-fits-all magic number of children. It depends on…
I don’t think we are significantly disagreeing here – we are just focusing on the opposite sides of the coin. We seem to agree that it is not ok for parents to become so overwhelmed that they do not properly care for their children. The Goq seems to be suggesting that there is an objective limit to the number of children a family should have before it becomes unfair to the children, however, and that I disagree with. That number is a personal decision between husband and wife.
The Goq,
You cant tell me that children part of a 12 child family get the same personal parental attention as children of a 6 child family
I can tell you that I know people who were an only child who felt neglected and ignored by their parents. I also know families of two children where one sibling is obviously favored over the other, leading to feelings of neglect. Parenting a larger number of children may be more challenging than parenting fewer (and perhaps not feasible for some families as jewishfeminist02 said), but the efforts and quality of the parents plays the crucial role. I think you certainly have the right to observe and express concern that some parents do not seem to be doing a good job, but I don’t think you have the right to tell parents that they have too many children. Which one(s) should they give back?
Also, your views on the appropriate number of children to have are deeply affected by your cultural viewpoint. In the eyes of many in secular America, having 6 children is considered grossly irresponsible.