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Thanx! (that applies to all respondents) Very well said. Really interesting. But…
Excluding the nisoyon of excepting an onesh, your categorization of nisyonos is a bit general. You claim that a punishment hurts where as nisyonos are day to day experiences.
Say a person doesn’t own a private yacht and it bothers him tremendously. He has had his eye on one for yrs and hes just dying to get out there and sail free. He cries out to Hashem and doesn’t understand “WHY G-d dont you give me the extra 120K I need?” No one will tell you that G-d is punishing him. He has a taiyva that he should push himself to overcome. But blur the lines, say he lives in the Hamptons where yacht clubs are common. Say his yacht is Flatbush’s Lexus LS460 or Monsey’s house with a pool or any other Jones situation. Say he cant even afford a family vacation or a trip to the restaurant. Onesh or Nisayon?? Perhaps there is a line based on ones standards that will differentiate the punishment and test. This aplies not only to parnasa, getting a raise or promotion but also to social acceptance, shiduchim, hatzlocha in Torah, health, etc…
We know regarding Tzidaka that a ex-wealthy gets more than the lifelong pauper. For his tzar is greater. He is being punished.
Is your initial differentiation correct or perhaps every situation can be nisyonos?? I agree that our daily common occurrences “not to learn or to talk loshon hora, to look where you shouldnt, to be a baal gayva” are nisyonos but the non-spiritual matters may be too?