Being Mochel doesn’t mean you no longer feel pain. It’s okay to be hurt and it’s even okay to sometimes be upset at the person. Being Mochel someone is acknowledging that they wronged you and saying “Even so, I am willing to pretend like it didn’t happen so that this person does not have a strike against him/her in Hashem’s chart.” There are higher levels and everyone is different obviously, but the minimum form of Mechila is you telling Hashem that even though this person wronged you, you no longer feel that they deserve to be punished on your behalf.
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