Forgiveness is difficult, but it’s a necessary part of finding wholeness in life.
I’ve learned to forgive those who have hurt me, because I believe that those who have hurt me did so out of their own callous disregard for other people and their feelings. I believe that those who hurt me will have to answer to G-d on the yom hadin for their sins, and I think that if you could commit others to the judgment and mercy of G-d, then you’ve done a good job of letting go.
My negative experiences largely come from having dated. I dated some real losers over the years, including those with defects of character and mental illness, but I think that you live and learn. I’ve had the opportunity to witness the ugliest aspects of human nature in those situations, and I’m glad, because now I know to not be as trusting and accepting as I once was.