philosopher – i did not talk about respecting the sin. i talked about showing the kid acceptance even if he hasn’t made a spiritual step yet.
love and acceptence makes in a thousand times easier for a kid to come back, and even just to make that first step. it’s not going to cut it to decide, i’ll start showing him respect when he ‘decides’ to come back and does something about it – because it’s much much more likely to happen only after he’s shown acceptance.
i personally cannot guarantee where i would be right now had my grandmother not shown complete acceptance and love for me whatever i was doing that wasn’t according to the Torah.