Respect means acting like a mensch to everyone, regardless of your personal feelings or opinions. It means, not taking your annoyance out on a waitress, when the cook ruined the meal. It means not treating a young person as though he or she does not have a brain in the head, EVEN IF YOU HAVE REASON TO THINK SO. It means standing up for an older person, a rov, a parent or grandparent whent hey enter a room, or for a pregnant woman, or someone who is disabled,or carrying many packages, and offering your seat to them. It means acting with good manners even when someone else is showing poor ones. It means listening to another person’s point of view, even when it vastly differs from your own. It means being quiet when someone is giving a d’var Torah, even if the speaker’s voice is very boring, because he is speaking words of Torah. In fact, even if he is not speaking D”T, the fact that he is up there speaking (unless he is advocating hate or the like) is good enough reason to be respectful. I could go on an on and I am sure I left out some important criteria, especially as regards respect between husband and wife.
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