WIY- I totally disagree about acting as if the so called “thing” never happened. That “thing” may have very possibly change or ruined who you are and in most cases, there is no way to reverse what happened. So forgiving definitely can’t mean forgetting what happened and wiping the slate clean. I understand forgiving as letting go of bitter feelings and getting rid of the desire to take revenge. It is accepting what happened and moving on. Forgiveness definitely doesn’t come naturally as resentment is a natural response to a perceived offence or injustice.
Shopping613 – One small question: if you’re past what happened, emotions involving the incident should have left, so who exactly are you angry at?