one of the shadchanim mentioned he is always impressed if people ask him about their prospective dates family cuz it shows they know what is important. i find that highly offensive- why should i be judged by my family? my parents are so anti- religous, they refuse to get themselves a filter for the internet cuz the rabbanim recomend it. but that doesnt mean i am bad! on the contarary, hashem thinks im strong enuf to withstand the nisayon of open internet- that makes me better than alot of you. i was very bothered by his comment. it made me anxious about getting married.
