Oh eclipse, such good advice. I really worked on that this year. I had a problem with seating in shul – the seat for my 7 1/2 yo was in a completely different room, no help when she wants to sit next to Mommy. I was so upset since I had donated a large sum of $ to the shul not so very long ago and there were others who got much better seating than I. I vented to my husband, but I kept thinking that being angry was just going to create me bigger problems. I talked to my daughter before daavening and explained that we were going to deal with things the way they were with hopefully a few adjustments – she could sit next to me in the aisle if the other people in my row wouldn’t mind switching over seats to let me sit at the end – and that we would deal with the nisayon in a better way than being angry. Oh, do I hope I got bonus points for that. The gabbai is my downstairs neighbor, so I really did not want to start up with him on YT. Now that things are not so pressing, I’ll go and nicely ask if he can switch things around for Yom Kippur. Hopefully it will all work out.
Everybody should have a gut gebentched yahr!