Oy vey, ppl, leave the guy alone!!!
He just had a bad date!!! can we have some sympathy and support?
Or at least, just let the guy have a drink…. without the guilt trip!
So, my answer is a resounding yes. It’s ok to have a drink (or two) after a bad date or dumping.
… my humble advice to you would be though…. don’t advertise it.
Lotsa ppl do it… there aren’t many ways to stay sane and date… this is one of them… but shh! don’t tell anyone, bc anyone who isn’t dating and hasn’t been dumped… won’t get it!!!
O, and BTW, by way of rabbanim… I/ we (my friends) have asked many sheilos over the years about what you are allowed to do to stay sane while dating and most rabbanim were surprisingly lenient. So really, lay off the guilt.
You can go to shul the next morning like any other person and ask HaShem for more strength to cope with your nisayon. But in the meantime, in that raw, right after it happens moment… drink and then just head to sleep.
Just don’t make too much of a habit of it, dating and getting dumped I mean. O and then drinking.