hi BY girl,
I went to a MO high school, and i felt that the learning of gemara was basically useless because we were missing the whole point of the role of a Jeiwsh woman. We have so many other things we should have been focusing on like Halacha that acctualy pertains to us, instead of challenging us with gemara that had nothing to do with our hashkafos etc.
Baruch Hashem, I went to a seminary that focused on all the things I was lacking in my high school. But I want to stress to you, that while you are totally valid in what you are saying, i think that one of the main reasons women don’t learn it in our tzibur is because we are really focused on our tafkid. once you get that downpat, ok maybe you could start learning gemara. but since we dont have the chiyuv of talmud torah, only to know the Torah to keep the mitzvos etc. we need to first focus on learning what we need to know and once we know that, and ONLY once we know that should we try moving onto something else.