“Do you find it insulting when you learn about the D’ORAISA obligations of onah a man has to his wife?”
We actually learned that a week ago in Daf Yomi. (It is covered in several places in Shas.) I was not insulted.
“learning in depth about blood stains”
The gemara in Niddah says that many women at that time were very learned in those areas, and that they consulted with each other and even decided halachah. Essentially there is a talmudic precedent for the modern institution of the Yoetzet Halachah.
“intelligent”
We also recently saw in Daf Yomi that the single person who was cited as THE example of a top gemara learner was — Beruriah.