JF, you want clarification. Just for the record, how old are you and are you married yet? Cause that will make a big difference whether or not you get what I am saying. This is an example of the way a woman functions on a daily basis:
Wakes up in the morning, puts on a load of laundry, goes to wake up the kids, goes downstairs and prepares breakfast/lunches/snacks, goes back upstairs, gets dressed, makes sure kids are getting dressed, feeds the baby, serves breakfast, dresses toddler who can’t quite manage himself, checks on laundry, maybe eats breakfast but usually not, realises the time and rushes everyone out to school. Takes the opportunity to do some shopping, comes home, dumps shopping on kitchen table, sorts laundry and puts it in the dryer – another load goes in the machine. Baby’s due a feed, notices some papers that should have been tidied away last night. Back to kitchen, start preparing supper, chops some onions, notices the unpacked shopping, puts it away whilst onions are frying, phone rings, pick it up and talk to mother/mother-in-law/sister/friend whilst holding baby in one hand and stirring onions in the pot with another…
The rest of the day is pretty much the same. We multitask, start with a job and then start something else once that is underway, then the next and somehow everything gets done (usually) by the end of the day.
Men, on the other hand, can ONLY really concentrate on one job at a time. If they are on the phone, everything else has to stop (my husband cannot do anything whilst he is on the phone). When it comes to cooking in the kitchen (if they can, I am blessed in that area) they cannot divide their time between loads of different things cooking whilst trying to see to the kids at the same time.
Men need this focus and one-track mind in order to learn gemara. The way a woman divides her time and focus means that we would find it harder to sit down and concentrate on a gemara for any significant length of time.