Sidi
Why do you think having a shadow kills them?
Do they stick out more because of the shadow or because of the issue necessitating the shadow?
As a parent of a child with a shadow I can tell you it’s often the latter.
A child who struggles to keep up academically begins to be viewed differently by the class. A child who has difficulty focusing or who becomes easily distracted and interferes with the work of others because he seeks stimulation also sticks out.
We actually revealed to a camp that my son was on meds for ADHD. They became apprehensive about their ability to manage him when, in fact, he was extraordinarily compliant because of it. There’s just no easy way.