Someone in my family actually does have it and that s/o also happens to be ME! I definitely hear what ur saying but I also know that the decision had nothing to do with me the fact that it was kept a secret. My parents were the ones that felt it was better this way. It wasn’t TOP secret, quite a few ppl(including some good friends) who needed to know were told. But generally I can say myself it is VERY hard to deal w/ in itself w/o having to worry about keeping the secret.
But I don’t agree w/ Mosh3 I DEFINITELY don’t deny it coming from the one above and am not embarrased about it even one bit! Keeping it a secret and acknowledging where hashem comes into the picture is not a contradiction at all