Firstly guys, I want to say how awesome this thread is. I’ve joined non Jewish diabetes forums but never really posted cuz they are miles away from my life. Anyway, bout the telling the boy-
Sorry if I gave off the impression that I have heaps of experience with telling the boy. I don’t, lol. But, what I have been told is that I have to tell on or after the third date. That being said, tw third date is not a magic number. It’s more of a guess of which date things turn from fairly casual to a little more serious. If you feel that you haven’t reached that level at all with a boy then I’m pretty sure most rabbanim agree that you don’t have to say for another date or two. You do, however, have to tell the boy before you reach the level where he is ready to get engaged, because by then his emotions are too heavily envolved an he can’t make a fair and balanced descision.
Bout the secrecy- no, I’m not secretive at all. Of of my friends know, a few of my coworkers that I’m with a lot know, and anyone else that needs to know, knows. I don’t however broadcast it to the world. I don’t pull out my meter and check in front of people. I don’t wear my insulin pump on my waist (even though I think that would be really really convenient!). How bout all of you? Are you secretive? Or did you discuss this before I got here?
Oh and I’m way past the pregnant friend’s stage- I’m already an “aunt”! Some of my friends are on their way to number two, actually. 😉