As my rebbe said, being shomer torah umitzvos is a choice. It’s not an easy choice, and very often kids are pushed out rather than then “leaving”.
Our community is bleeding, not to death, but bleeding in a real way. Parents, friends and family are concerned. They talk, they worry and often they try their best.
Warmth, acceptance and joy are the best and hardest antidotes. They are hard because it is hard to lead by example. And apples to apples, torah, tfillah, and tsedaka in all it’s forms really do help.