1st timer, the chosson’s rebbie and kallah teacher are NOT doing that.If girls were realistically educated about what it actually means to be in school and/or work full time, juggle homemaking and rearing children while a husband sits in kollel, they would also realize (like many NON-Jewish women who think they can have it all) that it is not so glatt. Something’s gotta give, and many young women are becoming burnt out at a young age. Most guys come home from learning, want their dinner and to relax (or they go back for another night seder). This is my observation with my friends’ sons who are learning FT. They absolutely are NOT parenting their children. They view watching their baby while the wife goes out i.e., shopping, as a FAVOR to her, not as being a PARENT to their child. That is just wrong.
Marriage is not 50-50. Sometimes it is 70-30 on EITHER side, and even sometimes 100-0. And our kids do not get that yet. Hence, tragically, the rise in early divorces within a year of marriage.