Its clear many dont get it, You should read the book by Faranak Margolese and she says many of the things here that people are ignoring.
There are things that might be assur in your community , maybe even assur according to most, maybe even a Daas Yachid who only holdit sBdived that it might be not assur.
And even if its its totally assur, Is it better to have someone 80% frum or 0% frum.