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No, we should follow the Ribbono Shel Olam. That means following Halacha, not societal norms. That specific point was that many are what you would call “MO” B’Tzinah. They just call it orthoprax.
“MO” and “Chassidish/Charaidi” can become OTD for two different reasons. Comparing the two clouds the issue. Extremism (poverty, learning at all costs, Chumrahs, etc.) is one side. The other may have lack of interest, the “shver”ness I mentioned earlier and may be there to be “socially” Jewish instead of following the Ribbono Shel Olam (for some). There is a balancing act needed (IMHO, the Yekkies & Chofetz Chaim Yeshiva are about where it is, but that is just one gavra’s opinion) to be Mechanach children on the derech in this day and age. Others will disagree and place it somewhere else.
(P.S. I believe you have mentioned that you live in the Five Towns area. Rabbi Bender’s Yeshiva is there, and I very much respect his opinion (His Chinuch Roundtable responses are usually right on the mark). Do you know what he has to say on the matter? I would be interested in hearing his opinion.)