streekgeek- people lack common sense and sensitivity in the frum world and outside it too, that should not be a reason to push you off if you think about it. just feel sorry for those tactless people who are constantly putting their foot in their mouth and wonder why every conversation is punctuated by awkward silences and people stomping hard on their feet underneath the table.
you can be hurt or you can be strengthened by how blessed you are that you have the understanding and sensitivity to know if and when to say something.