Reply To: Shalom Bayis Question

I floated the idea of agreeing to a temporary housekeeping arrangement to help while she is pregnant and she flat out said she wants the housekeeper permanently, not because of the pregnancy, but because she doesn’t want to clean the home.

While we were married for only a month before she was pregnant, between sheva brachos and a deep cleaning that I did before she moved to our home there wasnt a big need for cleaning, but she never really took the initiative either. Her mother always cleaned their family home while she lived with her parents and my mother always cleaned my family home when I lived with my family.

I really don’t want to be an evil husband that forces her to do things she doesn’t want to do, but I also want her to care for our home. I’m worried when we have kids she’ll just want a nanny and a cook and an xyz whenever she doesn’t want to do something herself. I was always raised with the philosophy that just because I have the financial means to outsource some things around the home doesn’t mean they should be, and that I should never hire someone to do something I wouldn’t do unless I wasn’t able to do it myself.