Newhus, Congrats on your recent marriage!!
Forgive me for making assumptions, but I’m thinking if you got married, you’re an adult.
If so, you’re not the little boy who went shopping with his mother before Shabbos and chose the candy corn, And the twizzlers, And the marshmallows, And the sour belts. The choices are tougher now. And you might not be able to get every single thing you choose.
In the example you gave us, it seems pretty clear, you can have the smiling, happy wife, or the wife who scrubs and shines your floors.
Pick one.
The choice is yours.