you say that your wife “does not WANT to care for our home.” I don’t agree with that statement at all. she does want to care for your home, but her way of doing it is by hiring a cleaning lady. just do it. then in a month come back here and tell us if it was worth it.
and b’shaah tova on your baby. don’t take it for granted that you will iyh be receiving a special gift so soon after your marriage.