One more note: Being Mechanech her was her parent’s job. You weren’t Mechanech your friends, don’t be Mechanech your wife. You can use your display of appreciation to convey what matters more to you.
Witholding it for a lesson is the worst reason to do so.
Shanna Rishona is actually about making her happy, not the other way around. I don’t know if you are aware of your own shortcomings or not, but people have these things. If it turns out that it will remain this way, work around it or with it.
You didn’t really gain each other’s confidence enough be able to discuss disposition changes without sounding (or feeling) like you are having second thoughts about the marriage.